I have just one short thing that I want to say to the other mamas out there today.
There’s so much chatter out there about the difficulties of parenting, the tragedy of giving up your own life, the fact that your life will never be the same again. And yes, it is hard, and yes, you say goodbye to your old self, and yes, eating a yogurt in silence and giving NO ONE any bites of it is what qualifies as an amazing self-care moment now when you used to NEED pedicures and shopping and getaways with your girlfriends and significant others and none of that is part of your life anymore.
But I gladly trade all of that for the privilege of watching my daughter try to make me smile when she thinks I need a little silliness in my day.
I gladly trade all of that for the privilege of walking around a nature park with her, noticing birds and bugs I would have never noticed a few years ago and taking her little hand when she offers it to me as we traipse through uneven grass without an agenda.
And I gladly trade all of that for the awesome responsibility of showing Zoe through my actions what kindness, love, empathy, compassion, wisdom, self-control, intelligence, and self-sacrifice look like. I realized the other day just how much she copies me, just how much she looks to me as a model—just how much she is learning every day from ME. Though it’s terrifying to realize that I am her primary example, it is also exhilarating.
The emphasis I put on developing my character and living with integrity, passion, purpose, and a heart for others will have a direct impact on my daughter’s development of all of these things.
No, I’m not the ONLY one responsible for this, nor will I do it perfectly…I cling to grace and need a fresh helping daily to cover my inadequacies, selfish tendencies, misplaced priorities, and mistakes.
But what could I possibly do that is more meaningful than this?
“Christian parenting is truly a sacred journey. It invites us parents to purify ourselves, to use the process of raising kids to perfect holiness, and to do this consistently, every day, out of reverence for God. If we enter it armed with this understanding, each segment will gain new meaning and purpose-even the difficult ones. We live in the midst of holy teachers. Sometimes they spit up on themselves or on us. Sometimes they throw tantrums. Sometimes they cuddle us and kiss us and love us. In the good and the bad they mold our hearts, shape our souls, and invite us to experience God in newer and deeper ways. Although we may shed many tears along this sacred journey of parenting, numerous blessing await us around every bend in the road.”
-Gary Thomas, Sacred Parenting