This morning, I heard my husband say the sweetest thing:
“Happy Valentine’s Day! I love you so much! This is a special day because it’s all about love, and I love YOU. You will always have a Valentine for your entire life. You’ll never be lonely on Valentine’s Day, because I will always be your Valentine.”
But my husband wasn’t saying these sweet words to me. He was saying them to Zoe.
And with those words, I was reminded again of why this man is my Valentine (Zoe, we can share.)
Let me explain.
Last night, I hosted my weekly high school girls’ Bible study. We wore pink and red and ate Valentine’s day cupcakes and treats while we talked about love, reading these words from Colossians 3 (MSG version:)
So, chosen by God for this new life of love, dress in the wardrobe God picked out for you: compassion, kindness, humility, quiet strength, discipline. Be even-tempered, content with second place, quick to forgive an offense. Forgive as quickly and completely as the Master forgave you. And regardless of what else you put on, wear love. It’s your basic, all-purpose garment. Never be without it.
The girls and I talked about how in high school (and even in early adulthood,) girls don’t always look for these characteristics in guys. The boy with compassion and quiet strength isn’t always our first pick; no one ever says “have you met the new guy in our class?!! He is so humble!”
But when it comes down to it, these characteristics are what make someone a good partner. A good friend. A good lover. The best person for you to spend your life with.
Any guy can scratch his head enough and eventually come up a romantic gesture or a compliment.
But he can’t come up with character without a lot of effort. He can’t show Colossians 3 love without a lot of dedication and intention.
The guy who unselfconsciously tells your daughter that he loves her and that she always has a Valentine when he doesn’t even know you’re listening is the guy you REALLY want to be with. He’s the one that will spur you on to be your best; he’s the one that will make you feel the most loved; he’s the one you need.
I’m so glad I have that guy. I’m so glad he picked me. XO